Trauma can leave deep wounds that affect every part of our lives. It’s not just about what happened in the past — trauma can shape the way we think, feel, and respond to the world today. Many people don’t even realize that their emotional pain is tied to old wounds they never truly healed. This can keep them stuck in a painful cycle that repeats over and over.
When we experience trauma, especially in childhood or in close relationships, our brains learn to protect us. We might shut down emotionally, avoid trusting others, or repeat the same patterns in relationships. These are survival tools at first, but over time, they can keep us from truly living.
For example, someone who was constantly criticized as a child may grow up believing they are never good enough. That belief follows them into adulthood. Even when they achieve something, they still feel like they’re failing. Or someone who grew up in a home full of conflict may find themselves choosing partners who create the same chaos, because it feels “normal.”
These cycles are painful and confusing. People may ask themselves, “Why does this keep happening to me?” The truth is, unhealed trauma can keep us repeating the same emotional stories — until we find the courage to face them.
Healing begins when we become aware. Therapy, self-reflection, and support from safe people can help us see the patterns clearly. With time and effort, it is possible to change. It’s not easy, but it is worth it.
One powerful example of this journey is found in the memoir Transactional Love: A Story of Survival and Perseverance by Sara Mousa. In her book, Mousa shares the emotional pain she endured and how trauma shaped her choices, especially in love and self-worth. Through therapy, personal growth, and deep inner work, she was able to rewire her mind and break free from the cycles that once held her back.
Mousa’s story is one of strength, survival, and transformation. It shows that even after years of emotional pain, healing is possible. Her journey can inspire others to face their own trauma and begin the process of change — one step at a time.